I'm worried my child is being bullied
If you think your child is being bullied, it is a good idea to talk to them about it . It is crucial that you remain patient and calm giving your child the time and space to talk and explain what exactly has been happening.
If you shout and scream and offer the wrong advice your child will feel like they are being punished twice.
If your child assures you that they are not being bullied, still let them know they can always count on you for help.
It is important to reassure your child that no matter what they tell you, you will not act rashly and you will let them know and keep them informed of any decisions on a course of action. This will give your child a sense of control over the situation, which is important as being bullied can often make a child feel powerless.
How parents can help:
- Talk with, listen to, and support your child. Do not shout no matter how frustrated you are.
- Calmly make the school aware that there is a problem.
- Allow them time to investigate but ask for regular updates.
- Remain patient, calm and constructive with your child.
- Be familiar with the signs of bullying.
- never agree to keep the bullying a secret.
- If your child is bullying others, don't dismiss it as unimportant.
- Reassure your child that it’s not their fault if they are being bullied.
- Ask for a copy of the school's anti-bullying policy (this should be found on the school website) and follow the procedures.
- When meeting with the school ask for the minutes in writing.
- DON'T tell your child to hit back, if your child was going to do this they would have done it without you telling them to. It is never good advice to meet violence with violence and If they hit back and if it doesn't work this can leave them with a bigger sense of failure and make them feel they have let you down.
- You may feel angry and upset, but work with the School to resolve the problem, your child is the priority.
You can always call bullybusters for further advice, we can support you to get the best outcome for you and your child.
Call - 0800 169 6928 -Our confidential free phone helpline operates between 3pm - 6pm Monday to Friday