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Dealing with bullying behaviour

We often hear that all bullies are bad, evil and dysfunctional. The impact that they have on their chosen victim can and does last a life time but bullybusters believes that many bullies have their own issues and can need as much support as the person who is being bullied.

Why do people bully?

They could be witnessing violence at home and display this behaviour to their peers
They could be getting the wrong advice from parents or siblings
They could be jealous
They have not been taught how to be a good friend and they get their needs met by hurting others
They wish to be the center of attention and achieve this by humiliating others
They suffer with low self esteem and hurt others to make themselves feel better.
They crave for attention, positive or negative

Children and young people who bully need to learn.....

How to get their needs met without hurting others
What impact their actions is having on another person
That bullying will lead to a consequence that is not a good experience for them
How to challenge their anger
Identify what triggers their bullying behaviour
That their behaviour could be illegal

Useful questions to ask a bully

Who have you hurt? (Bullies can sometimes believe they have hurt the teacher or their parent)
What did you gain?
How did it make you feel?
What would prevent you from bullying this person again? Use their suggestion as a possible consequence
Next time, what can you do to achieve your goal without hurting anyone else?